I'm 42, divorced from my husband of 20 years. The dating scene has changed so much I feel as if I am back in high school trying to figure out the difference between games and reality.

I'm an assistant principal and needed to talk with a principal from out of state concerning a new student. During our telephone conversations, we found out we are both single, the same age. We exchanged emails, and he suggested exchanging pictures. I sent mine, and the email stopped. I know what that sounds like. He didn't like what he saw.

I'm a nice looking woman and take care of myself. I feel so vulnerable and innocent at times. My husband was the only man in my life from college until last year, so I am not very experienced. My questions are simple. How do I know if a man is really interested, or just out for a fun time? When does a man feel a woman is too pushy?

Rebecca


Rebecca, the quickest way to find out if a man is just looking for a fun time is not to give him one. This doesn't mean you can't be a pleasant date or a good conversationalist, it means just leave it there. Let a man get to know you. If he keeps coming back, the interest is in you.

Thinking about why this man hasn't emailed is absolute speculation. It can range from you look like the woman who broke his heart to, at second thought, a long distance relationship is too much trouble. Don't let "no" prevent you from going forward, presenting yourself with absolute honesty.

There is no more powerful appeal than honesty. Honesty is only perceived as pushiness when the other person doesn't want what you want. "Pushy" is just a negative word for that.

Wayne & Tamara